Something else I find annoying

Today, I felt strangely compelled to read fashion magazines.  So while at the grocery store trying to find something to tame my allergies, I picked up Cosmo and InStyle.  (I only really bought the second one because of the promised shoe special section, which is basically shoe porn, the only kind of porn I repeatedly buy.)  InStyle was what it always is, lots of shiny, expensive products that I have no hope of affording at this moment.  There were some great shoes, no doubt, but every single pair that I liked, I could never afford. 

And then, Cosmo.  Cosmo is craptastic, let's just put this out there.  I KNOW it's craptastic; I don't really like buying it, but I do occassionally, just 'cause, you know, I need to know five sure-fire ways to bring my man to orgasm. 

Anyway, my pet peeve about Cosmo today is pretty common to all fashion mags; I haaaaaaate when men (famous or not) interviewed by a magazine say that the most important, attractive part of a woman is her independent nature/confidence.  I just don't think that the first thing that any man looks at is a woman's.....confidence.  Boobs, maybe.  Smile, okay.  Eyes, yes.  But you can't really tell how confident a woman is by those things.  Big fake boobs (or smile) don't equate to confidence.  Super-skinny (sickly) ladies aren't full of confidence, or they wouldn't feel the need to starve themselves to the point of ugliness. 

I'm pretty sure that any man on the arm of one of those types of girls isn't attracted to her confidence.  (And not all men are like this; one high profile man who I can think of that seems refreshingly normal in his taste in women is Hugh Jackman.  Then again, he's ridiculously good at playing gay.  This is a man who is COMFORTABLE with himself.  His wife isn't perfect; she's certainly not ugly, but she's no Nicole Kidman or Naomi Watts either.)  I just think that the above statement is a way for men to sound better to members of the opposite sex.  Because let's face it, if a man said that the most important quality a woman could have was the ability to sex herself up, we'd go running in the other direction, no?  And it's pretty damn shallow to insist that appearance is the most important thing; I think it's okay to like the way your lover looks, but making that the basis of the attraction is very scary.  Pretty much, confidence/independence is a winner answer, any way you look at it, if you're a man.

I just hate it. 

Comments

It is not only amusing that you have asummed that the most important thing to guys is apperance it makes it even funnier that you are a woman and have no true insite into what we think. And speaking of asumming, we all know what happens when one asumes something. So lets get some clarification on this whole subject of what men are attracted to from you guessed it an actual man who may actually be able to have an informed opinion on the topic. Now I am not here to say that men are not filthy pigs because we are. Yeah first and foremost we look for a specific type of women we are attracted too. This however does not in any way mean we are looking for the crazy big breasted blonde. Every man has his type of woman that he is physically attracted too be it the blonde or the bigger ladies or what have you. Gasp it is almost like each man is different and has a mind of his own and is not just a giant penis trying to screw the "hot" girl. Now once we have our type down we start to look for what is really important which is intrests, intelligence and confidence. Each guy can find a huge amount of ladies in his type because lets face it usually our type encompasses a large population of ladies. Now the vast majority of guys want a lady that will be able to talk to them at the same level as them and be interested in the things they are to some degree. And you better believe that that guy is attracted to that ladies confidence. If your lady does not have confidence then she probably looks like crap and has low self estem. I personally do not what to be with a lady with low self estem, it is depressing and in general sucks. So lets recap, 1) yes men first find a lady they are attracked too but this is by no means the most important as this is rather easy, 2) The most important thing to men in a woman is confidence and intelligence.

Well, I am sorry that the above gentlemen was offended. He'll probably also be offended my the post that I made on this subject. I agree that not all men find the same thing attractive. But, I really just don't see that the most important thing to men is intelligence and confidence. Personally, that's not the first thing I look for in men (well maybe intelligence cause I hate stupid people). You actually admitted that looks are what attract you first and foremost and then you look to see if they are confident, intelligent, what have you. So basically, if she doesn't look the way you want, then you probably would never notice the other things about her. Am I right? So wouldn't that therefore make looks more important since without them, the other things don't matter.

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I always think that the "statistics" (such as what men find attractive) and the person-on-the-street comments in magazines like Cosmo were invented by their writers. I believe this stuff has as much credibility as the National Enquirer or the Star, both of which are fun to read if you're looking for a good laugh.